All of us mess us. Making an apology for the wrong, cannot undo the harm done, but it takes away the brunt of the entire incident. It also helps you show the person that you care about the relationship and are sorry for the mistake. Making an apology helps rebuild your relationship with the person and in many cases also helps with the healing process. However, it is important to make an effective apology. You need to convey the right message in the right way especially due to the fragile nature of the situation.
We have put together a few steps to help you make an effective apology.
Make the apology in person
Whenever you are within reach, make sure that you say it in person. When you are not able to meet the wronged person, send a written note and decide to meet the person sometime soon and convey your apology. Remember to follow it up.
Avoid texting, emails or phone calls unless absolutely necessary. Technology cannot convey what being in person does. Often, we tend to modify the language in the interest of being concise, creating further issues. However when it is a question of a long distance relationship, call the person and convey your message.
Say it and mean it
Show that you mean it, the remorse of messing it up. Admit it. Look into the eyes of the person. Tell the person how you plan to make it better. If touch is appropriate to the context and situation, don’t forget to hold the hands of the person.
Just saying something does not create a difference, until you back it up with action. Do so. Immediately. Make quick amends and rework the situation. Show the person that you will not repeat the wrong as it has caused pain and has inconvenienced them.
When you admit to the situation, especially when it is a legal issue, make sure to take responsibility. It stops further complications. Plus, you can have a lighter heart.
Flowers, a card or a personal favorite can be used in order to apologize. Send the right gift, especially in a formal situation.
Once, you have made an apology, it’s up to the other person to respond. You cannot control the outcome of the same and attempting to do that may have a counter-productive effect. Work hard to move past the incident and return to normalcy.